Focusing on What is Pure by Samantha Villenave
The most powerful act that we can do to show the character of Christ is to reflect His nature in our relationships. It is so easy to get caught up in focusing on what we find wrong in others. It is so convenient to point the finger at their flaws, but when we do so, we hold a magnifying glass up to our own shortcomings. We expose our own hearts when our motivations are not pure.
This week, we are featuring Jennifer Waddle's teaching, "Purity in Relationships," a wonderful resource for those seeking to deepen their Christian character and model it in relationships. It explores the concept of seeking purity and modeling Christ in all of our relationships - with friends, family, coworkers, spouses, and potential life-partners. It will be a wonderful resource for your small group, singles group, or other ministry preparation.
Seeking purity in relationships is essential when we are single and dating. The temptation is to see people as something that can either fulfill us or not, and thus accept or reject them, but God would have it otherwise. For those of us who do eventually settle down and marry, the person who we spend our life with will become a daily opportunity to model the character of Christ, as well as a mirror that reflects the self, exposing every flaw. We can begin the journey by preparing for Godly and pure relationships from the beginning.
Titus 1:15 states, "To the pure, all things are pure, but to those who are corrupted and do not believe, nothing is pure. In fact, both their minds and consciences are corrupted." Many times when we begin focusing on the flaws of others, it is time to have a quiet heart check before the Lord. When we get busy and tired we can end up frustrated and lacking grace in our relationships. Oftentimes the error we see in someone else is pointing back to our own shortcoming. This is true in dating, marriage, with children, at work and with anyone that we come in contact with.
I really believe in the transforming power of allowing God's grace to flow through all of our relationships. As we open to his correction, and let go of our own need for our standard of "perfection", His excellence and mercy invade us. We are able to see each other as Christ sees us, and love each other as the Father loves us.