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Embrace Your Diversity (3 of 13)
Series: When Leaders Live Together
How Two Strong Personalities Can Thrive In Marriage
Larry and Devi Titus
We read in Genesis of how God performs the first surgery among humans- He takes a rib from the side of Adam and creates Eve. This event, in the Garden of Eden, marks the beginning point of when man comes to realize woman's differences.
I wonder if Adam looked at Eve shortly after coming out of anesthesia and said, ''Wow, she sure doesn't look like me. I wonder if there are any other areas where we're different.'' Are you kidding me? Man, was he in for a surprise. Adam and Eve were so opposite you would have thought that they came from different planets. I can also imagine that shortly after they let him out of post- op, he began to complain, ''God, did you have to make her so different? We're nothing alike.''
Not much has changed since the garden. We still hear men complain that women are different. Duh! Obviously! God purposed it that way! We learn that God intends for Eve to be related to Adam, but totally different from him. Men, your rib is no longer in your side, but it sits across the table looking at you.
Occasionally, I will hear someone say, ''You need to get in touch with your feminine side.'' My retort is simple: ''I married my feminine side. Her name is Devi.'' If you want to get in touch with your feminine side, reach across the table and hold her hand. And by the way, just because you're a creative man doesn't mean that you have a feminine side to you. God surgically removed your feminine side. It merely means that you're a creative man.
I'm going to take a wild guess-I can nearly guarantee that your wife is opposite of you, right? Not just in some things, but everything. She hears things differently than you. She responds differently than you. She processes things differently than you. And, praise God, she looks differently than you. So, what is it that you're complaining about? The question is not, is my wifedifferent than me, but do I appreciate the differences? Beyond that, do I actively resolve to use those differences to produce harmony and unity in my marriage? I know that it will come as a shock to hear that Devi and I are polar opposites, yet we function in perfect harmony. I process things very slowly; she processes them instantly. I like instant gratification; she likes to plan, save, and wait. She moves very, very fast, and I move very, very, very slowly. She loves social situations; I love solitude. She loves to talk; I love to read. She loves to garden; I love to sit in gardens. She loves to cook; I love to eat. She loves gourmet; I love McDonalds. She loves serious, suspense-filled movies; I like comedies. Devi loves to speak to the crowds; I love to spend one-on-one time with people. She loves to shop, and I love to do anything in the world but shop.
I would rather hang-glide ...
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