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Relationship Wisdom That May Move Mountains
Series: Relationship Wisdom That May Move Mountains
There is, perhaps, no better time to evaluate our relationships than right after a big event or holiday celebration. Our truest colors usually make an appearance after only a few hours with close family and friends. How those childlike tendencies seem to come out of the woodwork, and our relationship issues rise to the surface before we even serve dessert!
A few years ago, I was really struggling to figure out how I was supposed to navigate through some difficult things within my relationships. I was at the point where I was ready to start shutting people out. I found myself growing weary of being nice. I didn’t feel like keeping the peace any longer. I was done.
Ever feel that way?
Then one day, (before I dead-bolted my door to the world), I was listening to an online devotion while making dinner. I heard the teacher quote a passage of Scripture that leapt right out and grabbed my heart.
“But the wisdom that is from above is first pure, then peaceable, gentle, willing to yield, full of mercy and good fruits, without partiality and without hypocrisy. Now the fruit of righteousness is sown in peace by those who make peace.” (James 3:17-18 NKJV)
I couldn’t shake it. I couldn’t forget it. I was transformed by it. The phrase “willing to yield,” played over and over in my mind. The difficult relationships I was so ready to give up, were suddenly put into a new perspective.
Unbeknownst to anyone, I made a decision that day, to follow James 3:17-18 in every one of my relationships. I even remember calling a friend in my excitement, sharing with her my newfound life verses. And you know what? Living out those verses began to move mountains in my relationships.
But, before we continue, I need to confess something. It’s painful to admit, but you ought to know the truth. At first, I planned on using those verses as leverage. I had an agenda of emailing that passage to all my friends and family who I thought needed some “changing.” I was certain that everyone else needed some conviction. Know what I mean, sister?
However, those 8 principles of Godly wisdom only began to work when I fully surrendered my own stubborn and difficult ways.
You see, no one else had the same conviction. No one else got excited about being peaceable and willing to yield. No, those words were for me. And I knew deep down that God He wanted me to surrender my own flaws to the truth of the Word—no matter how difficult it would be.
Only then, was I transformed in attitude and action concerning my relationships. It had nothing to do with others. It had everything to do with me. And oh, what a world of difference it has made, living by true wisdom instead of my own feelings a ...
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