Gentleness in Relationships by Jennifer Waddle

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Relationship Wisdom that May Move Mountains
Series: Relationship Wisdom that May Move Mountains
Jennifer Waddle
James 3:17

‘‘But the wisdom that is from above is first pure, then peaceable, gentle, willing to yield, full of mercy and good fruits, without partiality and without hypocrisy.’’ -James 3:17

Toddlers aren’t considered the gentlest creatures on the planet. They are too fast, too busy, and well…too toddlerish!

When our second grandson was born, his big brother was two, and gentleness was far from the equation! Noah loved to point to the baby’s eyes, mouth, and ears, stating aloud what he was pointing to. But with his lack of coordination he would end up poking James and making him cry. Every time, we would say ‘‘Gentle, Noah, gentle.’’

In this Bible Study series, Relationship Wisdom that May Move Mountains, we will be studying what it means to be gentle in all of our relationships.

Is this attribute all about having a quiet disposition and a soft touch?

I believe it goes much deeper than that. I view it as tenderness toward the things of God; an open heart to receive what He has lavished on us.

‘‘Eye has not seen, nor ear heard, nor have entered into the heart of man the things which God has prepared for those who love Him. But God has revealed them to us through His Spirit. For the Spirit searches all things, yes, the deep things of God.’’ (1 Corinthians 2:9-10)

This characteristic of heavenly wisdom is one of the deep things of God as He reveals it to us through His Spirit. We don’t have to strive so hard to be women who are warm toward others. We simply need to lend our heart to what the Lord is showing us.

The best earthly example I can think of, concerning this beautiful attribute of God, is a mother holding her newborn baby for the first time. The labor is over. The nurses have gone. The lights are dimmed. And she has sweetness wrapped in a warm blanket held close to her heart.

Isn’t that gentleness to the core?

In every relationship, if we were to display that centered kind of gentleness, that heart-wide-open kind of vulnerability, I believe mountains would be moved! Every difficult person in our lives would be left without a single accusation or complaint against us. Every rebellious loved one would marvel at the undeserved tenderness shown to them. And we, ourselves, would be blessed beyond belief just by walking in the deep wisdom of God.

Philippians 4:5 states, ‘‘Let your gentleness be known to all men. The Lord is at hand.’’

Is your gentleness known to all, or do others brace themselves when you enter the room?

Perhaps, the rough exterior is a defense mechanism. Somewhere along the way, it may have become easier to react with harshness than to concede with gentleness. Or, i ...

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